Boys are primarily visual, spatial and experiential learners. Did you notice auditory is nowhere in that list? Despite knowing this, we fall into the trap of talking at and talking to boys way too much, forgetting they learn best by going through the motions. Think about the Compassion story I shared. You’d be correct in assuming though I’d spent a lifetime understanding the concepts of poverty and hunger in third world countries, it didn’t become real to me until I traveled to South America, visited those sites, interacted with children and families, and heard their stories. The experience expanded and deepened my perspective.
I challenge parents to avoid lecturing about hungry children across the world, when their own kids don’t clean their plates and waste food. Rather than lecturing, take them to a local Soup Kitchen and serve as a family. They will develop perspective differently... Read More
As Spring break and Summer vacation approach, it’s important to consider the role of technology in that time. As you prepare for these breaks, here are some ideas to help shape the time away as you set parameters for your family. Read More
I wrote this last year around vacation time…and, since it’s vacation season again, I thought it bore repeating. Happy Spring Break, everyone! And may we continue to be committed to encouraging and extending grace to each other…in real life and on social media.
If you and I are friends/followers on social media, by the time you read this, you’ll probably hate me... Read More
There really is an App for everything.
If you’re interested in marrying some of the concepts in our new book with an App... designed to help you build emotional intelligence, check out this product developed by a psychologist at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. Read More
Building Block #1: A Scale aka Drama-mometer
On my fortieth birthday, I had a kidney stone. Forty was not the new thirty for me. It was miserable . . . blew my “stubbed toe might be the most significant pain” theory right out of the water. Since then, I’ve heard from many women that one teeny kidney stone causes more pain than natural childbirth. I now have a new understanding of those little scales they hang up in the ER. You’ve seen them. They’re numbered 1–10 and have a little happy face on the left side at 1 . . . and a miserable face at 10 on the right. I wish every home had a similar pain assessment tool for girls... Read More
Come celebrate the release of Are My Kids on Track? with us if you're in Nashville tonight! David and Sissy will be at K.McCarthy, in Green Hills, next door to King Jewelers, tonight from 6-9pm, signing books. There will also be plenty of shopping and sweet treats to enjoy! We would love to see you! If you can't make it or live out of town, make sure you are following us on Instagram for fun giveaways we're doing and celebrate with us there! Read More
We are only 5 days away from the release of "Are My Kids on Track?" Have you pre-ordered your copy yet? We are so excited to share this new parenting resource with each of you! Nashville, we would love to see you, on Tuesday night, February 14, at the book release party! It will be from 6-9pm, at K. McCarthy, in Green Hills. There will be book signing, festive treats, holiday shopping, and give-aways!
Today, we hear from Sissy, in the book on Girls and Perspective. This will be a two-part series so tune in next week for the second half... Read More
For the next several weeks, we are excited to share some ideas from our upcoming book, Are My Kids on Track? We'll be looking at some important emotional, social and spiritual milestones we want to help our kids progress toward. We'll start today with a conversation about boys and emotions.
It feels important to first dispel a myth about boys and emotions. The myth is girls have more emotions than boys. That couldn’t be farther from the truth... Read More
Nashville Friends! Got any plans for Valentine's Day? We would love to see and say hello at our book release party for "Are My Kids on Track", on Tuesday night, February 14, from 6-9pm, at K. McCarthy, in Green Hills. Read More
The New Year has started and we’re gearing up for lots of things at Raising Boys and Girls. We’ll be continuing our blog, with Technology Tuesdays and parenting tips. We’re coming out on the road to hopefully get to meet YOU at one of our parenting events! We’re having lots of fun and giveaways on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. We are most excited about the launch of our new book coming out NEXT WEEK... Read More
It’s amazing how easily our kids can find their way to content we don’t want them to see. We can’t say enough how important it is that we check out what they’re wanting to install on their phones and gadgets…and not just glance at, but really explore.
A mom came up to me at a recent conference warning me about an app called Monogram Lite. She said her daughter downloaded it and it appeared harmless. Basically, it’s an app that lets you put your monogram on different designs and images… Read More
How can I help my kids learn to be more empathetic?
Girls can be, by nature, very empathetic. They are highly intuitive and relational creatures. When we were writing Raising Girls, we heard story after story of girls who were in tune and responsive to the needs of others around them. You’ve seen it yourself. Your daughter is running toward the soccer goal kicking the ball. Her friend falls down behind her. What does she do? She forgets the ball and goes back to help her friend. However, the closer they get toward adolescence, the more these girls also evolve into narcissistic creatures.
What can you do? How can you help instill empathy now and maintain it through the turbulent teen years... Read More
“I wasn’t sure how I could help, but what I really wanted to do was hug him.”
But not just hug—it was more like *hug*.
“What does the asterisk mean?”
“It’s when the role play starts. I wanted to hug him, so when I typed asterisks, it was like I virtually hugged him. And then things took a bad turn from there..." Read More
In the past, we’ve talked about anxiety and kids on several different occasions. Kids can have anxiety around all manner of issues, from going to school to spending the night out to shots. In fact, shots are one we see many kids (and adults) struggle with consistently. If your child has trouble with shots and those dreaded vaccinations are looming on the horizon, check out this article... Read More
When we’re teaching on Taming the Technology Monster, one of the most common questions is…so what do we do? Thankfully, there are many great programs out now to help safeguard our kids’ hearts and minds when it comes to Technology. We try to write about them regularly on Technology Tuesday’s!
The issue with filters and monitoring services is wanting something that can take the hassle out of it for you. It’s just hard to find time to be on top of technology, while the kids around us seem to find all of the time in the world. So, we do our best to take the guesswork out of it at raisingboysandgirls.com and help you find your way to helpful, safe, user-friendly platforms to protect your home and family... Read More
I am surprised every year as I talk to children of all ages around the holidays about how they do and don’t experience Christmas. I’m surprised about the entitlement that has swept through the culture of children today. But I’m not surprised about how the two correlate.
First of all, we believe it is very important for your family to be about giving this season. We think it is a fantastic opportunity for kids to be a part of what Christmas looks like walked out…at soup kitchens, sponsoring and buying gifts for a family... Read More
I was teaching a class on Taming the Technology Monster last month, when the subject of Musical.ly came up. If you haven’t come across it before, see our recent blog about the app that has taken the elementary and middle schools by storm!
We do have an update that a kind woman at my seminar told me about that she referred to as “quite dangerous.” The app that enables you to create your own music video and share it now has a streaming component... Read More
My 9 year-old daughter is already acting like a teenager. When should I expect things to start to change with her, and when do I need to talk to her about puberty and sex?
The answer to all these questions is “Yes.” You need to talk to her. Actually, you need have conversations with her all along the way, just as David mentioned regarding boys... Read More
My answer is start now. Whatever the age of your son, jump into that conversation. If he’s young, begin talking more... about how God designed his body as a boy. If he’s knocking on the door of adolescence, you’ll need to accelerate the conversation, and explore the possibility that he has been educated (or miseducated) by his peers.
Here are three rules of engagement as you move into the conversation at any point in your son’s life... Read More
The great folks at Affinity are helping us keep kids safe online. Take a look at an app you need to know about that kids and teens use to hide content. Here's a recent blog post where they shared about the app. Read More