More and more girls come into our counseling offices worried about the start of school. As the summer winds down and conversations come up about lunchboxes and lockers, they get a little teary. They have more frequent stomach aches or headaches. Each August, we see an onslaught of elementary aged children who have anxiety around school starting back. Sometimes, it’s that they’re afraid of throwing up. Sometimes, it’s performing poorly on tests. Sometimes, it’s making friends or having a strict teacher. Regardless of what they attach their fears to…Read More
Suicide has become an increasingly popular topic in our counseling offices. More kids than ever are talking about it, in one way or another. Tragically, exponentially more kids are talking about ending their lives. Many of these kids are genuinely contemplating suicide as an option. And, as always, if you ever hear your child mention it or seen any reference your child has written about suicide, in person or on social media, our recommendation is always the same: take them directly to the hospital…Read More
Let me tell you why you are here. You’re here to be salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavors of this earth. -Matthew 5:13, MSG
We skip over salt sometimes. We read that verse and talk so much about light (You know…you are the light of the world kind of stuff). But we miss the salt…and Jesus was saying something very important when he talked about salt. Because, you see, salt itself was very important in Biblical times. It was valuable. People were even paid in salt, sometimes, instead of wages. And we all know salt still has many important purposes. It preserves. It disinfects. And it especially helps…Read More
Every time we speak on technology, we’re asked about YouTube. Kids of all ages are investing significant amounts of time and energy on this platform, watching everything from cartoons to comedy sketches to vlogs to other kids playing video games. It’s hard to know how to protect kids…and sometimes hard to know what you might be protecting them from.
Thankfully, there is a version of YouTube called YouTube kids, with built in protections. But we wanted to give you a little more information on some additional ways you can safeguard your little ones. And, in a couple of weeks, we’ll be posting some important information regarding YouTube and the teenagers you love…Read More
“How many of you have fallen down before? You understand, then. We try so hard to do something right, and we still fall down. Your parents encourage you and build you up, and you still fall flat on your face. That’s the thing about trying to have confidence. It just doesn’t work for very long. The Bible says it like this:
We are just as capable of messing it up as they were. Don’t be so naïve and self-confident. You’re not exempt. You could fall flat on your face as easily as anyone else…Read More
In Matthew 18, the disciples were arguing about who the best among them was. And then Jesus looked out, pointed to a child and called him over. The child walked up and Jesus said, “Be like a child.”
In other words, Jesus is saying, “Be like you.” Be you. You don’t have to be anything else. You don’t have to be funny or cool or silly or anything different than exactly who God made you to be. He made you different than anybody else…Read More
We started out our 9th-10th grade camp with a boy named Eustace. Eustace wasn’t actually at camp with us…except that he was. Eustace was a character in the movie, The Voyage of the Dawn Treader, that we watched the first night of camp. And Eustace, basically, is every one of us.
Eustace started out as quite a grumpy young fellow. Nothing quite suited him…no situation, no environment, and certainly, no one. He grumbled his way, much like a little monster, through the beginning of the movie until a certain scene when Eustace was transformed…Read More
Let’s have our eyes open to what God may want to show us…
“The next day John SAW Jesus coming toward him and said, ‘LOOK, the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world! This is the one I meant when I said, ‘A man who comes after me has surpassed me because he was before me.’ I myself did not know him, but the reason I came baptizing with water was that he might be revealed to Israel.’ Then John gave this testimony: I SAW the Spirit come down from heaven as a dove and remain on him. And I myself did not know…Read More
In Steven Spielberg’s beloved 1989 adventure classic Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade a character asks the hero, “Why do you seek the cup of Christ? Is it for his glory or for yours?” For the few days that encompassed all-boys camp a daring group of middle school boys sought to answer this question for themselves.
Treasure hunting became the theme of this all-boys camp, drawing initially from the boys viewing of Indiana Jones, Melissa introduced the concept not of tangible earthly wealth but of the treasures of heaven and the wealth that is placed by God within us…Read More
“Let me check my map to see where she is.”
Last night, I sat with a group of high school girls while we were waiting for others to show up. One of the girls pulled out her phone, touched her “Find My Friends” app, and all of a sudden, the photos of several of her closest people showed up, all around town…Read More
(This is something you could share in a family devotional or with the kids in your life. We’d highly suggest you watch the movie Wonder together first!)
In the movie Wonder, the mom says to Auggie, “Your face shows where you’ve been and your heart shows where you’re going.” This week at camp, we talked about the same kind of idea…but with hands, rather than faces…Read More
During the summers, Daystar has something called Hopetown. It’s really more like a week-long retreat than a camp, for the kids who are involved in Daystar. But it’s a place where those kids learn more about themselves, about relationship to others, and how deeply God delights in them. Mostly, in the midst of cooking and dancing and playing on the lake and Melissa’s amazing and experiential teaching, they find hope. This summer, on the blog and on our Instagram account @raisingboysandgirls, we’re going to be bringing a little more of Hopetown to you. We’ll give you scripture you can study and ideas you can use to connect with the kids you love, and help them connect to others and to their own growing faith with more depth and purpose. So stay tuned for Hopetown Highlights of the summer. We’re so glad to have you alongside us... ❤️⚓️❤️Read More
For this Technology Tuesday, we’re wanting to let you in on where we’re heading these days with Raising Boys and Girls' technology! You may have noticed that we’re purposefully trying not to flood your inbox with emails. But, we’re also trying to put out as much helpful information as we can on social media these days. We put up activities we think might help you and your kiddos, quotes we think might inspire you, and try to lighten…Read More
All throughout Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys, I (David) discuss the boy brain. When I teach on boy development, I start the conversation highlighting three strikes a boy has against him, in helping parents and educators understand why he is so physical, under-focused, and always moving. I discuss how he’s hard-wired for acting before thinking, and the different ways this can complicate his academic and relational journey.
If a boy is hard-wired for activity and movement, of course he isn’t naturally slowing down, reflecting, focusing, observing and operating from a place of awareness…Read More
I have the honor of knowing a woman who has been battling stage 4 cancer for several years. She is remarkable. She fights beautifully…not just fights this stupid cancer, but fights for her children in a culture that too often fights against them. She fights for her faith in a way that inspires me to do the same. And, in the midst of tremendous struggle and heartache, she fights to maintain the sort of gritty, buoyant, dogged hope that epitomizes who she is. I want to be more like her. And can’t say enough what a privilege it is to…Read More
Season 2 was just announced. It will be released on Netflix on May 18. The preview is every bit as provocative looking as the past season, shrouded in mystery and Polaroid photos. These folks know how to bring their A game with all of the best teenage-angst/alluring/trendy means possible to build hype for this show that took the teenage world by storm last spring.
In case you missed it, 13 Reasons Why was the television show we heard more kids talking about in our offices than any other show in 2017…Read More
I (David) worked with a fifteen year old boy who was an Olympic Gold Medalist in Manipulation. He had a 4.3 GPA, was a gifted golfer, and played guitar on the side. School wasn’t the only place this talented, bright young man would flex his well-developed cognitive muscle; he accessed his expansive vocabulary by throwing verbal daggers at family members when he didn’t get his way. As is often the case with teenagers, mothers can become the target of choice.
I coached his mom on the art of disengagement. We discussed how staying in the argument would never yield a desirable outcome…Read More
If you’re following us on social media, you know we’ve been dropping hints (because we couldn’t keep it a secret!) that we’ve been working on a podcast with our friend, Sarah Bragg based on our newest book, Are My Kids on Track: The 12 Milestones Your Child Need to Reach. Sarah has been offering encouragement and hope to folks at her podcast, Surviving Sarah, for years now. It’s a series of thoughtful conversations that make you laugh and think, designed to help you keep your head above water while living with purpose…Read More
Building Block #2: A Good Template
“I don’t know how to confront someone.” Girl after girl after girl has said these words to me in my counseling office. Girls of all ages . . . women of all ages, in fact. I honestly don’t know how at times, either. But I have a friend who does. She confronts people who don’t even know they’ve been confronted. I’ve watched her do it over the years with friends, with her husband, and with anyone who crosses over the line of her strong, kind boundaries...Read More