Failure to Launch/Boomerang Kids: Part 4

“Welcome Home.  When are you leaving?”

A Parent’s Guide to Boomerang Kids - Part 4

Here are some additional guidelines for parents who find they are moving from empty nesters to landlords.

 Navigating Faith with a Young Adult Child

  1. Keep development in mind.  Your young adult child is still forming his/her identity.  Identify formation stages of late adolescence and young adulthood often involve questions of faith.  These questions can take them to a deeper, richer understanding of truth and a more rooted, authentic relationship with Christ.  Sometimes the path to this place can be bumpy.
  2. Pray.  READ MORE
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Failure to Launch/Boomerang Kids: Part 3

“Welcome Home.  When are you leaving?”

A Parent’s Guide to Boomerang Kids - Part 3

Here are some guidelines for parents who find they are moving from empty nesters to landlords.

How to Respond to a Child that Comes Home

  1. Go to the scriptures.  I recommend any parent with a child coming home reread the story of the Prodigal Son.  There is so much wisdom within the father’s response that can prepare you well for that moment.  
  2. Respond with mercy, understanding and empathy.  The father of the Prodigal Son didn’t greet his son with an “I told you so” lecture.  He greeted him with mercy.  We are told the son in that story came to his senses while dining with pigs, not when his father was lecturing him about blowing it.  Read More...
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Failure to Launch/Boomerang Kids: Part 2

“Welcome Home.  When are you leaving?”

A Parent’s Guide to Boomerang Kids - Part 2

Prevent the Comeback:  How to prepare high school kids not to become boomerang kids

  1. Parent with a long view.  Let the decisions you make on a daily basis be for more than the here and now.  Worry less about raising happy kids and more about raising responsibleresilientresourceful kids.  
  2. Identify areas for reduced support.  Where could you take a step back to allow for great independence – financial, relational, or logistical support?  Having your child do their own laundry, setting their own alarm in the mornings rather than waking them up, paying for their own car insurance or managing a debit card through online banking.  
  3. Nurture an independent learner.  While most schools allow for checking grades online, avoid the tendency to do so on a daily basis.  Too much academic involvement creates dependent learners...  READ MORE
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