Bio: Tommy Hart

As you are meeting more of the great folks we work alongside at Daystar, we would imagine you're getting a better picture of why we love what we do.  We get to be a part of this amazing place, to spend our days with kids and families, to bring our dogs to work, and to work alongside remarkable folks.  Meet Tommy Hart, a friend and trusted colleague, and one of the greatest discoveries for all 3 of us.  Tommy is going to tell you a bit about the work he does and let in on a hunger that resides in the heart of the boys we love.  Lean in to his words as Tommy reminds us of something important about the boys (young and old) in our lives...

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Technology Tuesday: Rewiring the Boy Brain

For as long as video games have been around, I’ve been asked questions about boys and gaming.  The rise of the internet brought advanced questions about boys and pornography.   These remain two areas of concern when it comes to protecting the minds and hearts of the boys we love.  

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Technology Tuesday: A Must See Video for Boys!

You’ve heard us say repeatedly that for all the dangers that exist for kids and technology, there are so many ways we can use it advantageously as parents.  

Today’s Technology Tuesday is a great example of that.  We can have some outstanding conversations with our kids following a short youtube video.  I talk often about how boys are visual, spatial and experiential learners.  Use this visual to jumpstart a conversation with your son.  Below are some questions to get a good conversation started with your son.  Depending on the age of your son, you may choose to eliminate, modify or adjust the questions.  The important thing is to start a conversation.  Continue Reading

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Humble Confidence...Camp Hopetown: Boy's Week

The all boys’ camp started off with a familiar story…the story of a boy who wanted freedom and decided he knew better than his father from Luke 15.

Melissa introduced the story of the prodigal son by talking about the importance of humble confidence, something we all want to instill in our boys.  She asked the guys to identify where in the story the son had an arrogant confidence and where he had one that was born out of humility.  You can guess their answers:  his arrogance came out when he wanted his inheritance now, and the humility when he returned to his father.  She then asked them where in the story they found themselves…asking for their inheritance, wandering, returning, or even watching from a distance as the jealous, older brother. 

The boys’ responses were indicative of all of us, at times... READ MORE

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Boys & Sports: Part 1

For those of you who’ve read my book, Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys, you know that I’m an advocate of healthy, balanced opportunities for boys to play sports.  Youth sports can be an invaluable context for boys to develop physically, emotionally and socially.  

I’m particularly grateful for wise, invested coaches who see sports as an opportunity for young men to learn skills, be active, have fun, practice sportsmanship, and most importantly to develop character.   Thankfully, there are many devoted men and women who invest in the lives of young men and student athletes in schools and leagues across the country.

And unfortunately, this kind of coach exists as well... READ MORE

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Q&A Thursday: My son is struggling in school...

Question: My son is struggling in school.  He comes home in the afternoon and often says “I hate school.”   Is there anything I can do to help him?  

 Check out this great article on boys and school with 3 great ideas for helping boys in school.  

What Schools Can Do To Help Boys Succeed

If boys are restive and unfocused, we must look for ways to help them do better. Here are three suggestions...

Being a boy can be a serious liability in today’s classroom. As a group, boys are noisy, rowdy and hard to manage. Many are messy, disorganized and won’t sit still. Young male rambunctiousness, according to a recent study, leads teachers to underestimate their intellectual and academic abilities. “Girl behavior is the gold standard in schools,” says psychologist Michael Thompson. “Boys are treated like defective girls.”  READ MORE


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