Your role is profound in the life of your daughter. As a man, you have a unique ability to draw out her beauty—deeper beauty—than possibly anyone else in her life. Tell her that she is beautiful, inside and out. Encourage her and tell her when you see her kindness toward a friend of her tenderness toward an animal. Speak to her strengths and love her through her weaknesses. As you do these things, you touch on the femininity that is growing inside her.
You can also be affectionate with her, even when she gets older and starts to pull away. She will be embarrassed by this, but that is all part of the adolescent ruse. It’s embarrassing for your dad to do these things. But she still enjoys them—even when she act like she doesn’t. Put your arm around her at church. Offer her your arm when you are walking into an event. This kind of affection helps her feel cared for and valued... READ MORE Read More
You remember the feeling, don't you? Playing a sport you couldn't really play in PE, trying out for the school musical or the cheerleading squad, or even just having to give a speech in class. The sweaty palms, the nervous feeling in the pit of your stomach, the feeling that all eyes were on you and critiquing everything you said and did.
Losing her voice
Girls are self-conscious. In our seminars with parents, we talk often about how girls lose their voice around middle school. Dove claims that 6 out of 10 girls stop doing what they love because of the way they look. As a counselor who has worked with girls of all ages for more than 20 years, I would say it's also because of who they are—or, more importantly, who they believe themselves to be.
Research suggests that when something goes wrong in a boy's world, he blames someone else. (Moms, unfortunately, that's most often you.) But when something goes wrong in a girl's world, who does she blame? You guessed it, because you did too (and maybe you still do). She blames herself. READ MORE Read More