Hopetown: Fear & Trust with 5th & 6th Graders

This week, we talked a lot about fear and trust.  And the difference between the two.  And how those differences were walked out in the lives of two guys named Caleb and Joshua.  Caleb and Joshua were guys who heard and trusted God, despite what was going on around and even inside of them. 

As 5th and 6th graders, things are changing a lot for you.  You are beginning to see more and feel much more than you ever have before.  Something that didn’t bother you in second grade starts to bother you now.  You worry about what people think—and especially, what they think about you.  It happens to all of us. 

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How Can I Help My Child With Anxiety?

What do I do when she’s afraid and I can tell the thoughts have become looping? 

That she won’t go upstairs to take a shower if I’m not upstairs with her? 

That she won’t go to school for fear of throwing up? 

That she won’t spend the night at a friend’s house? 

If you were to bring your son or daughter to Daystar, these are a few of the places we’d start:

1) Make a worry list.  Here’s an example.  When he’s afraid, the blood in his brain is literally rushing to his amygdala, which controls a fight or flight response.  This also means its not circulating as well in his pre-frontal cortex, which enables executive functioning.  In other words, he is not thinking with the part of his brain that helps him organize his thoughts, differentiate between good and bad, think through consequences, set goals, and control his impulse.  He is thinking in survival mode.  His heart rate elevates.  His autonomic system is on alert.  Basically, he is not reasonable.  (You probably know this much better than we do.)  In order to help him reason, we need to help slow down his nervous system….to come down from a 10 to a 2 or even a 4.

With many of the kids I counsel, I’ll help them come up with a “Worry List”-a list of things they can do to help calm themselves down when they start to get anxious.  Basically, they’re coping skills.  Make one of these lists with your child.  Have them tell you what makes them feel better and more peaceful...

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Easter...The Birth of New Life and New Hope

Frederick Buechner’s words to a church on the 200th anniversary of it’s beginning.  And our words to you this Easter week…

“When somebody takes your hand in the dark, you’re not afraid of the dark anymore.  The power of dark is a great power, but the power of light is greater still.  It is the Shepherd of Light himself who reaches out a hand, who is Thou to us.  Death and dark are not the end.  Life and light are the end.  It is what the cross means of course... READ MORE

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