As a counselor, I make a lot of recommendations to families. One of my favorites—for mother’s and daughters, in particular, is to watch a show called the Gilmore Girls together. It is hilarious and sweet—and speaks to the longevity and loyalty of relationship. Lorelai is not a perfect mom, nor is Rory a perfect daughter (although she tries awfully hard). They go through the normal ups and downs that moms and their girls (and boys) do—especially in those delightful middle school years. But they always come back to each other.
A college friend of mine recently wrote a beautiful blog about her mom—about their ups and downs, their loyalty, their longevity—actually their Lorelai and Rory-ness.
In every parenting seminar we teach, we talk about how kids push away from parents. It’s a part of growing up. It’s a part of what they have to do in order to grow up. It’s called individuating. Mom’s, they often push off of you the hardest. But they do come back. Continue Reading...Read More