Are My Kids on Track: Girls and Boundaries Part Two

Building Block #2: A Good Template

“I don’t know how to confront someone.” Girl after girl after girl has said these words to me in my counseling office. Girls of all ages . . . women of all ages, in fact. I honestly don’t know how at times, either. But I have a friend who does. She confronts people who don’t even know they’ve been confronted. I’ve watched her do it over the years with friends, with her husband, and with anyone who crosses over the line of her strong, kind boundaries...

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Are My Kids on Track: Girls and Boundaries Part One

Stumbling Blocks for Girls

Stumbling Block #1: “Not Enough-ness”

I was an only child until I was 16 years-old, when my parents said, “Surprise!” and delightedly rocked my world with a baby sister. Until that time, my parents did a great job of trying to help me learn awareness and reciprocity through friendships. They scheduled lots of playdates and sleepovers, always with my elated approval. My mom still laughs, however, about my pattern whenever someone would...

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Girls, Bravery, and Bible Belles

I talk with girls a LOT about bravery behind the doors of my counseling office.  Girls often have a tendency to shrink back.  They doubt their voices.  They don’t believe they’re capable.  They don’t trust their strength.  I believe those doubts are a contributor to the struggles I see—with self-esteem, with anxiety, and with a whole host of issues girls face today in greater amounts than ever before.

For those of us who have girls in our lives that we love, we want something different.  We want them to feel brave, courageous, resilient, strong.  And we want them to learn to pepper those important traits with kindness...

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A Cure for Entitlement

"Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults—unless, of course, you want the same treatment. Don’t condemn those who are down; that hardness can boomerang. Be easy on people; you’ll find life a lot easier. Give away your life; you’ll find life given back, but not merely given back—given back with bonus and blessing. Giving, not getting, is the way. Generosity begets generosity."                Luke 6: 37-38,  The Message

When my daughter turned thirteen, she began to reveal greater and greater evidence that she was in the throws of adolescence.  Some mornings we’d wake to find the little girl we’d known since birth - kind, compassionate, responsive and delightful.  Other days, we’d wake to someone else.  This other person looked like my daughter, but..

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The Grunt and the Gurgle: with jeanniecunnion.com

Our friend and author of the book Parenting The Whole Hearted Child,  Jeannie Cunnion welcomed us onto her blog this week and we were able to share about communication with boys and girls. Read some of it here and head on over to her blog for the full article! 

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What We Wish We Had Known

In Raising Girls, we call early adolescence “The Narcissistic Years.”  They are, obviously, thinking about themselves and what other people are thinking about them pretty constantly.  I recently spent time with a group of kids who were emerging from those narcissistic years.  We had a conversation about things they wish someone had told them growing up.  (My secret guess is that someone did…they were just too narcissistic to hear.) Continue Reading

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