If there is one issue we see girls struggle with in our counseling offices, it is self-esteem. They can be five years old or fifty. They can have brown hair, blond hair, red hair, even purple hair—the faces are different, but the core issue is the same. Girls simply don’t feel like they measure up. It may be mean girls that tell them they’re not accepted. It may be other adults who set a standard they can’t meet. But, unfortunately, these external voices become internal, and girls criticize themselves much more than anyone else ever could.Read More
For many girls, there is a sense of shame bound up in being a woman. As a mother, you may be lost for how to talk to her about it.
Girls don’t want you to tell them about what’s changing about their bodies. They don’t want you to talk about sex. They become awkward, walk away, and even resort to toddler tactics like plugging their ears and humming loudly.
We could talk at length about the origins of shame for girls. In the Fall, a significant part of Satan’s curse attacked our identities as women: “Then he said to the woman, ‘I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain you will give birth. And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you’” (Genesis 3:16).
Media has, historically, valued women consistently and primarily for their appearance and sex appeal. And it’s only gotten worse.Read More