I spend a lot of time with girls talking about their bodies…body image, body weight, body size, as well as the body image, weight, sizes of the girls surrounding them at school.  Of course, as a counselor to girls, this is one of the issues that plague them the most.  Now, in the age of selfies and snapchat, they are constantly uploading pictures for all of the world to see.  But how many selfies do they actually take before it’s the right “selfie?”  How do they angle their elbows in just the right way?  Position their heads?  Do anything that can make them look a few pounds lighter or a few inches thinner?  Anything that can make us look the same? (We’re guilty, too…)

As always, our tech friends have stepped up to the plate with an answer...

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Why Thinking You're Ugly Is Bad For You

 “My mom is 3 sizes smaller than me.  If she thinks she’s fat, what does she think about me?”

A teenage girl said these words in one of my groups recently.  Our struggle with self-image is one of the great tragedies of this decade—actually, of the past several.  But it’s only getting worse.  Social media is a breeding ground for low self-esteem.  Kids are online and “on” continually.  Their faces are posted on apps and website and transmitted via facetime, skype, and swipe.  As David talks about in our Intentional Parenting seminar, the “imaginary audience” coined to describe what adolescents feel is no longer imaginary.  It’s a reality.  And it’s all blending together to the detriment of their—and our self-esteems. Continue Reading...

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