We recently attended your Intentional Parenting Conference. My husband and I thoroughly enjoyed it and learned quite a bit!! Thank you for that!
We have 3 children (2 boys and a girl) and my youngest is by far the most challenging. One problem I have is, after I have thrown down the gauntlet, ex. "Go to your room", my son will refuse or fall to the floor and throw a fit.
Do I pick him up, arms and legs flying and put him in his room? If after I put him there, do I stand at the door and hold it closed?
I am certain that there are dozens of people reading this question, shaking their head in agreement and saying some version of “YES! That happens to me too.” It’s a great question, and we will inevitably find ourselves in a power struggle with a child who won’t follow through with a consequence we’ve delivered. A helpful question to ask yourself is “can I enforce that?” We are advocates of only giving kids consequences we can easily enforce. For example, rather than saying “you were disrespectful, hand me your cell phone.” Only to have a child hold it behind their back and say “you can’t take that from me, I bought with my birthday money.” Your options at this point are to restate the consequence ten more times or start reaching for it behind their back - neither are good choices.
A better option would be to say “you were disrespectful and I’m going to log on to AT & T in a few minutes and shut your phone down. READ MORERead More