Talking to Teens about Fifty Shades of Grey

By now, we’ve heard a lot of voices ring in about this movie.  Unfortunately, I’ve heard of a few high school girls whose voices are ringing in, as well.  “If there’s one movie I’m planning on sneaking into right now, it’s Fifty Shades of Grey.”

You may remember yourself what that felt like.  Buying a ticket for a non-suspicious movie while acting very suspiciously.  Sitting for just a few minutes, until the movie theater attendant made his exit, and then darting into the movie with the “R” on the marquis.  I have to admit.  I think I snuck into a few movies from time to time—the first one I remember seems to have been about breakdancing with a few curse words thrown in to make it’s rating a little racier.

We’re playing on an entirely different field now.  Breakdancing doesn’t hold a candle to the content of the movie that is being talked and written about constantly these past few weeks.

Talk to your high school students about Fifty Shades of Grey.  Show them articles like these.  Use this as an opportunity to talk to them about healthy, loving sexual intimacy—how God intended it, rather than how Hollywood is poorly portraying it. 

If you need extra help, those of us at Raising Boys and Girls are big fans of the Stan & Brenna Jones series of books on How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex.  They even have books for the kids themselves at every age level.  But, the bottom line is they need your voice to weigh in on this.  Even though their eye-rolling may cause you to doubt it, you still have the strongest and most lasting adult voice in your child’s life.  Your teenager has most likely already heard someone else’s voice talking about this movie.  Ask them what they’ve heard…what they think…if they’ve had any curiosity about it.  Don’t shame them, in the process.  But talk WITH them (rather than just TO them) about how God designed intimacy, both emotionally and sexually.  Help them know what a gift they have to look forward to someday—unspoiled by shades of anything that can confuse and enslave them to something profoundly less than the beauty God has in store for them.

Information for YOU:

Information to share with your TEENS:

And here’s a great video from our friend, Priscilla Shirer, who has graciously invited us to be a part of her show, The Chat, talking about the culture, sexuality, and 50 Shades of Grey: