Welcome to RaisingBoysandGirls.com!
We'd like to introduce ourselves to you. Our names are Melissa Trevathan, Sissy Goff and David Thomas. We're counselors in Nashville, Tennessee with a combined 75+ years of counseling kids and families. We work at a place called Daystar Counseling Ministries, or, as one boy called it, The Little Yellow House that Helps People. There, along with a staff of thirteen friends who are also co-workers and four very talented pet therapists, we currently counsel 1300 children, teens and families. Out of our work at Daystar, we have had the tremendous opportunity to write several books and offer seminars for parents and educators across the country. We are honored every day to speak into the lives of children, teens and parents at Daystar, as well as other communities. And we are grateful you found your way to our website.
We hope these pages will be an opportunity for us to get to come alongside you in your parenting. We want to reach beyond the walls of our counseling offices at Daystar and into your homes...to encourage you, to laugh with you, to share with you what we feel is going on in the hearts of children, teens, and parents, and mostly, to bring you hope in your journey. We are grateful for who you are and how you love the children whose lives you touch.
Not long ago, we released a book titled Intentional Parenting. It’s full of stories of some of the wise, responsive, intentional parents we’ve had the opportunity to sit with over the years.
In the book, we introduce a concept called learning through observation - how we can pay attention to the words and actions of people around us. For example, if we see coverage in a publication or the daily news that highlights an individual acting courageously (or foolishly). What can we take away from their experience? Sometimes it’s a friend or classmate of one of our kids who makes a daring or destructive decision. How can we learn from that?
Recently, I heard a story about an intentional mom in our community. She took her young children to the mall to meet Santa Claus and have their photo taken with him. She established her place in line amidst the masses and then heard her son say “Mommy, why is that woman wearing her bathing suit in the winter?” continue reading