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Welcome to RaisingBoysandGirls.com

We'd like to introduce ourselves to you. Our names are Melissa Trevathan, Sissy Goff and David Thomas. We're counselors in Nashville, Tennessee with a combined 75+ years of counseling kids and families. We work at a place called Daystar Counseling Ministries, or, as one boy called it, The Little Yellow House that Helps People. There, along with a staff of thirteen friends who are also co-workers and four very talented pet therapists, we currently counsel 1300 children, teens and families. Out of our work at Daystar, we have had the tremendous opportunity to write several books and offer seminars for parents and educators across the country. We are honored every day to speak into the lives of children, teens and parents at Daystar, as well as other communities. And we are grateful you found your way to our website. 

We hope these pages will be an opportunity for us to get to come alongside you in your parenting. We want to reach beyond the walls of our counseling offices at Daystar and into your homes...to encourage you, to laugh with you, to share with you what we feel is going on in the hearts of children, teens, and parents, and mostly, to bring you hope in your journey. We are grateful for who you are and how you love the children whose lives you touch. 

*Raising Boys and Girls intends for the blog to provide general and educational information to support parents and educators in caring for the kids in their lives. The content is not intended to be a substitute for consulting with your child's pediatrician, teacher or counselor. In order to be HIPPA compliant, we cannot answer counseling related questions on this site. You may contact our office if you are interested in setting up a parent consultation, and feel that it would be helpful.


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We recently spoke in Mobile, AL, for our third time at the yearly Parent Summit held at Spring Hill Baptist Church.  Over the years, we’ve developed some sweet friendships with the church staff and members.  Our friend, Erica Holloway, the children’s minister, wrote these words to introduce the Are My Kids On Track conference.  They made us laugh and tear up as we thought about all of you.  We wanted to share them with you to remind you that we get it.  There is SO much on a daily basis...  

Last month, we were teaching our class called Taming the Technology Monster.  As always, by the time I finished talking, the parents in the room looked stricken.  It’s probably the most alarming issue for parents of all ages in this technology-saturated world.  One woman raised her hand and said, “I’m a mom of littles and you’ve sufficiently terrified me.  Can you tell me one thing that technology has done for good in the lives of our kids?”

There are a lot of things.  We are big fans of Common Sense Media and the Empathy and Social Skills building apps you can find there for kids... 

Have you seen this video?  We would sure encourage you to take a look.

I’ve had lots of girls over the years say things like, “If my mom hates the way she looks so much I can’t imagine what she thinks about me..."

Parenting is a challenging, delightful, heart-wrenching journey that can feel profoundly overwhelming and lonely at times. Parents need guides who understand the world of their children. We are happy to come along side you in this journey.

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